11 to 17 August 2025Module Three:
The Erotic Animal Hiding in the Shadows
Key Focus Points:
Access, trust and take responsibility for your needs, feelings and desires.
Learn to trust in yourself and that your shadow is your gift.
Increase your emotional intelligence, social intelligence and self-acceptance.
Develop clear boundaries, personal power, authenticity, fearlessness and spontaneity.
Learn ways to approach yourself and others with curiosity instead of judgment, compassion instead of impatience, love instead of avoidance, truth instead of strategies, and presence instead of control.
Experience the beauty, power and innocence of your erotic nature.
Transform fears, share the truth of your heart and experience relating to others from wholeness, trust, honesty and authenticity.
Reduce social anxiety by being met as you are and mirrored by a compassionate community without being made wrong or told you need to be different to be loved and welcomed.
Learn understandable, repeatable elements that are designed to give you the embodied foundation for a sex life that blows your mind, opens your heart and makes you grateful to be alive exactly as you are.
Learn the alchemy of relating, the practice of courageous vulnerability and transparent self-disclosure.
Learn how to rebuild your relationship to your emotions and wild animal instincts, and transform them into a more spontaneous, powerful, fun and passionate intimacy and sexuality.
Be able to come from your heart and deliver potent feedback that inspires others to make brave, transformative changes.
A Holistic Picture
Now that we have strong foundations of community acceptance and personal power, we are ready to shine light into our sexual shadows. It is in the shadows that our true erotic natures have been hiding, under old layers of fear and shame. Now we’re ready to meet them. Together.
To do this in community requires courage. It takes a warriorship of the heart that is willing to reveal the most uncomfortable truths of oneself and one’s projections. Instead of performing love and sex, anxiously trying to be who you think you need to be so you’ll be loved, you can bring out the wild animal you’ve been hiding. As you transparently reveal yourself and your secret desires – wild, dirty, magical, powerful, free – we all come alive.
Doing this opens up an electric field of transparency, openness, and vulnerability within the group. We do this knowing that simply the experience of being in touch with these most isolated and denied parts of ourselves, whilst never leaving the strong, loving eyes and arms of our community, can dramatically shift and release old patterns of pain and separation. We learn to love ourselves by allowing others to love what we’ve rejected in ourselves.
Sometimes our sexual animal is too much for one lover, and gets driven back into the shadows. But in a group, with a wide spectrum of people, and no single individual asked to hold the whole impact, it becomes much easier.
We learn to share clear feedback with each other, reclaim our projections, roar from our hearts, wrestle and cuddle with each other, and rewrite old stories with new ones - ones where we can be truly ourselves, in all our power and fullness, and truly bonded with others at the same time. From this point we can begin to know a sexuality that is genuinely grounded and integrated with the core of who we are.
From an embodied self-awareness, abiding in the animal wisdom of the body, we learn to create and respond to what’s real. We let go of futile attempts to try to fix or control ourselves. By playing in the shadows, we intentionally bring in the darker sides of sexuality: kink, BDSM, taboo. We discover the power that’s been hidden in the darkness, the huge amount of stored energy that was locked up in fear and trauma. And even better: we learn how to play with it!
We do this knowing that despite (and maybe even thanks to) our edges and shadows, we are lovable, we are welcome, and we belong. We feel the relief of not needing to live from a defended place, expecting the worst to happen, again. We learn to rest in a presence that holds all the good, all the bad, as one who has enough heart and belly for both the light and the shadow.
Additional Practices:
Mirroring and Feedback Practices (Drawing from our experience of Zegg Forum, Humaniversity Therapy, Embodied Intimacy, Contact Improvisation, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy)
Rewilding Practices (Drawing from our experience of Contact Improvisation, Embodied Intimacy)
Shadow Work (Drawing from our experience of Humaniversity Therapy, Drama Therapy)
Community Building Practices (Drawing from our experience of Theatre Improvisation, Cuddle and Play Structures)
Erotic and Sexual Healing Practices (Drawing from our experience of David Cates, Body Work, Yin based approach to De-armoring, Rebirthing, Tantra, Sexual Shamanism)
Conscious Kink and BDSM (Drawing from our experience of Humaniversity Therapy, David Cates)
Theoretical Context:
Theoretical Context (Drawing from our experience of Tamera Healing Biotope Philosophy, Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Kink)